I have class on Wednesday & yesterday like any other Wednesday, I was running late as hell. I rushed into the building & hopped on the elevator at floor 1 cuz taking the stairs was not a good idea with my ankle all flared up.
So I’m standing at the back of the elevator trying to get my mind right for tonight’s lesson when it stopped on floor 2 where a few more people got on. One of the ladies (Special K) entering was a former co-worker & a member of the church that I left.
So immediately I say hey Special K, how are you & gave her a mini elevator hug. She was like hey stranger how are you??? I was like fine & wow, I just saw your son (Precious Flame) a few days ago at a show in Detroit.
When I mentioned her son, her tone changed & she switched the subject to ask why I have not been to church. I told her that I fell of & would not be back. She lovingly told me that I needed to come back with my kids & get back into the swing of things. At this moment the elevator stopped we said goodbyes & she got off.
I was so happy she was not going to my floor because I was not mentally ready to deal with a Jesus judgment from a high belting choir member. So when the door closed I let out a big sigh & the young lady to the left of me laughed & said I know how you feel.
Moments (how long is a moment anyway) later, I get off on my floor headed to class & wondered why she did not acknowledge the fact that I said I ran into her baby Precious Flame whom she used to brag about at work all of the fucking time. Then I started to wonder if she did not go there because of a sexy secret.
You see, when I ran into Precious Flame, he was like hey gimme a hug, how are you & was VERRYYYY flamboyant etc. In a non offensive way, I am saying he was gay as all get out & 2 finger snaps away from doing the “Men on Film.” segment on “In Living Color”. We did a little small take & said goodbyes.
Could Special K be ashamed of Precious Flame because of her love for the church???? And why does she think I need to get my ass back at Bethel AME to listen to the words of a pulpit pimp (he really isn’t, I just wanted to say that in a sentence LOL). Maybe I am over reacting but.
I am not mad or hating on Special K because I think she is a beautiful person; just kinda tripping on the precious Flame piece & her desire to see me at church.
When I was caught up in a Christian Matrix, I never judged or guilt tripped people to get them in the pews. I guess I will forever wonder why so many Christians do this & think that it’s ok.
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Peajai / October 4, 2007
I have been commenting on so many blogs today I really should do some work. But I do have something to say about this…
I too have kinda fell off from going to church. The head pastors of my church have done and said things I didn’t agree with and have been taking advantage of my mother (she’s the director of hospitality) and I just haven’t had the desire to go to church like I used to. However, our church has had some very obviously gay and lesbian characters on the stage (praise dancers, praise singers, choir members) and no one has batted an eye about this (openly, anyway).
I took my mother out on her birthday to a lounge with some of my friends and they suggested we go to a gay club which my mom was all for (surprisingly). We ended up seeing quite a few people there that go to our church. And my mother went back and told everyone (even the head pastor) that *I* took her to a gay club. I feared some kind of backlash because of this, but there was nothing.
So I say all this to say that even though my church has done some shady stuff, they are very gay friendly. And that is the way it is supposed to be. Church is supposed to welcome all, sinners and saints, because we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. So if this Special K lady is as much of a Christian as she claims to be, she should embrace and love her son just the way he is. Because that is truly the Christian way.
Anonymous / October 4, 2007
What kind of hokey dokey sermon is that? Did God just love Sodom and Gomorrah for the way they were? Did God just embrace Adam and Eve disobedience and say, “You don’t have to listen to me. You created yourself, you know better than I on how you should live?” Heck no! God’s Word says, “you must love your neighbor as yourself or thy shelf (for those still using King James’ english). That means you don’t go around bashing or hurting people who live opposite of God’s way but you don’t love what God hates. Homosexuality is a lifestyle not a person that was created in the garden of Eden. That’s why it’s called alternative-employing or following nontraditional or unconventional ideas, methods, etc.; existing outside the establishment: an alternative newspaper; alternative lifestyles. People need to wake and take notice but God’s Word has already said people would “take no note”. Should we view religion as a mere buffet,
picking and choosing beliefs that appeal to us? For references:
Genesis 18:20 Genesis 19:4,5 Genesis 13:13 Romans 1:27 Jude 7 and Leviticus 18:22
Meikmeika / October 4, 2007
Sadly, many of the Christians I’ve come in contact with have chosen just that, to pick and choose as if it’s a buffet.
Bygbaby> I feel you on the sigh after Special K walked out the elevator. I used to visit this grocery store every couple of days and would say my hellos to the greeter, a very pleasant woman, when I went. I guess she felt since I’d been going to that store and greeting her as I did she should ask me what church I went to. When I said I didn’t go to church she proceeded to stare me down in anger and said, You must go to church so God can love you. And everytime I see her she still stares me down after I tell her I don’t go to church. Now, is that really necessary?? I would prefer to congregate with those who are compassionate, non-judgmental, and who appreciate the differences in others.
Luscious Librarian / October 5, 2007
I did a post about gays and the church and I guess I expected some backlash but it just seems so silly and so against God and love and all that we should strive to be.
It’s always strange to me that I see the same group of mother’s who cried at one son’s murder conviction or some other trial, but disown the other for loving who he chooses. Seems outrageous to me.
Peajai / October 5, 2007
Anonymous,
I do not get into arguments with people over the internet because it is not worth my time to argue with people who I don’t even know. However, I will say that you proved your own argument wrong. The Bible said Love your neighbor as yourself, correct? It doesn’t say love your neighbor as yourself as long as they’re not gay. It seems as though you are the one picking and choosing what rules to follow. The Bible also says Judge not, lest ye be judged. Matthew 7:1, since we’re quoting scripture. Keep reading to see how you should remove the beam from your eye before telling someone else about the speck in theirs.
Darius T. Williams / October 5, 2007
You know – that could be the case. Her not accepting her son could be an issue for her. A lot of times people are soooo concerned about what others say that the approval of others becomes their fuel for life. It’s a shame in my opinion – but, it’s the truth. Hey, i say if you’re not growing at Bethel AME, then, hit the road to a place where growth and destiny awaits!
Keith / October 5, 2007
Tafari,
Don’t even get me started on that one, brother. As someone who was raised Presbyterian (the only black Presbyterian Church in Denver, CO), then went on to become (not necessarily in this order) COGIC, Apostolic, Lutheran, Baptist, Church of the Nazarene, and one more I’m forgetting, let’s just say I’ve had my fill of all that yimmer yammer. Me and God are fine, I still go to church occasionally, but if anybody ever gets in my face again tryin to guilt trip me into a service?
I was lost, now am found, and don’t plan on gettin lost no mo. And yes, thou most certainly can get lost up in church just as easily as outside the church doors.
Don’t get me started..
Ro~ / October 5, 2007
I am Baptist born, Baptist bred and when I die I’ll be Baptist dead. Growin’ up in the church as a DK (Deacon’s kid) was just as bad as growing up a PK (Preacher’s kid)the scrutiny and the judgment was always on ya. My parents always told me that my place in this world was to live & treat everybody right, don’t be ashamed of telling of God’s goodness to you and be an example. I used to sit under the elders in the church (guess that explains the ole spirit I have) and the ole folk use to say, ” Everybody sangin’ bout He’um aint goin'”
Byg, why couldn’t Special K just say, “Well if you don’t come back to our church, then I pray you find a place of worship somewhere. I’ll keep you in my prayers & be blessed.” ? Her opinion was probably written all ova her face, humph. Opinions are like sphincters everyone’s got one.
Erica C. / October 7, 2007
My sister is part of the Jesus juice drinkin club. If she found out that our little brother was gay, she’ll have a holy coniption. I’m the only one he’s come out to (I knew he was gay before he did)and I love him more than anything in the world. He’s 31 but he’s still my baby.
And yes I’m a big faghag!!!!!
Bygbaby / October 7, 2007
You all really jumped off on this post but please let’s not have a Jihad up in this bitch OK. LOL