Today I was checking my email when I got a message from the S3 (Safe Sex Store) regarding their sale on sex toys. The lead in to the sale info was about May being “National Masturbation Month”. My first thought was damn, they have a month for everything & 2nd I was like why?
Side note: The only reason I get this newsletter was because I was stupid enough to sign up when I went to buy a Jack Rabbit a few months ago.
To my latter question I actually stated to com up with good reasons why this needs a month & support especially within our community. My reasons are because masturbation does cause HIV/AIDS & other STD’s to spread, no one gets pregnant in the process, you don’t have to say I love you after you are done & you don’t have to worry about anyone asking you to make a sandwich.
So anyway, before I started to do my internet research to verify the validity of the month long celebration Jocelyn Elders ran across my mind & how she was publicly crucified for being in support & advocating masturbation. WTF is was wrong with people tripping on something that could save lives when you consider what kids/adults are currently doing now; just look at the CDC statistics & unplanned/unwanted pregnancies.
“We know that more than 70 to 80% of women masturbate, and 90% of men masturbate, and the rest lie.”Jocelyn Elders – 2006
As a Baba of 3 African Queens I would prefer that they wait until they were in a seriously committed relationship as an adult & out of my house & pocket before having sex so I will have no problem sitting down with them & Suite Suzy to discuss health alternatives cuz I want my babies safe!
Masturbation Month History:
National Masturbation Month is not recognized by the government, or really any public institution, but in 1995, in response to the firing of Surgeon General Jocelyn Eldes for her comments on masturbation, Good Vibrations got together with like minded sex-positive sex stores, and created Masturbation Month, a month dedicated to honoring the most common and still frequently derided sexual practice on the planet.
The month usually culminates in the Masturbate-a-Thon, a fundraising event where people ask for pledges (dollar amount per minute) and on a specific day try to masturbate as long as the possibly can. Tens of thousands of dollars have been raised by participating stores (mostly Good Vibrations, , Babeland, and Come As You Are for sexual health organizations across North America. An annual online Masturbate-A-Thon has been organized by the Center for Sex and Culture for several years. While some consider Masturbation Month to be just another the result of all the commercialism is more discussion of masturbation in the mainstream media, which hopefully will add to mainstream acceptance.
Bullshit: Masturbation is something you do when you’re young, but then grow out of.
Reality: Well I am not one to put all of my business out there but sometimes I need to get in tough with my self. Since I have had some live in stuff my desire for self love is not as great as it used to be when I was living single. Surveys regularly show that anywhere from 70 to 95% of adult men and women masturbate.
Bullshit: Masturbation isn’t “real sex,” it’s only for people who can’t find a partner.
Reality: When ever you bust a nut, that’s sex, point blank! From a health perspective, masturbation is as “real” a sexual behavior as intercourse, oral sex, or kissing but if you ask Bill Clinton I’m sure he will beg to differ
Bullshit: Masturbation is bad for your health.
Reality: This myth originated with an anti-masturbation tract that was written in 1712 as a way to sell a bogus “tonic” that was supposed to stop the disease of “self-pollution”. Through the years there have been many bullshit attempts to demonize masturbation like saying that it will make you go blind, cause acne, cause hair on your palms. Science & my personal experience show that all of this is bullshit. The only effect from masturbation is pleasure & maybe a quick nap it you do it right.
Bullshit: Masturbation is something men have to do, but women don’t “need” to.
Reality: While most statistics show that men do masturbate more than women, there is no evidence to suggest this is due to some biological “need” on the part of men to masturbate. Anyway I heard that after that “Sex in the City” episode aired where Charlotte got addicted to her Jack Rabbit vibrator, vibrator sales went through the roof.
Bullshit: People in relationships don’t masturbate.
Reality: This common myth often drives people in relationships to masturbate in private hiding it from their partners. Survey research shows that people of all ages masturbate when they are in relationships. Alfred Kinsey’s survey found that almost 40% of men and 30% of women in relationships masturbated. Lastly my philosophy is a couple that masturbates together stays together.
Bullshit: Too much masturbation is bad for you.
Reality: I don’t believe in getting too much of a good things as long as you are able to break off your partner when the time comes (pun not intended).
Bullshit: Only certain kinds of people masturbate.
Reality: I think not! Masturbation is good for niggas, bitches, fags, dykes, hoes, pimps & anyone in between. Shit even Muppets masturbate; you would know that if you saw Avenue Q on Broadway (like me).